The idea for this page is mainly to share our thoughts about how we approach our lifestyle and also our thoughts about situations that we come across. From time to time I will come back here and update if I think of anything new to add.
There are any number of web resources out there that will provide good information on swinging and specific topics related to swinging. I would urge you to check them out. The people who write these articles have been around as swingers, club owners, party organisers, relationship counsellors etc. I have thrown together some links to get you started.
Reid about Sex - The orignal self styled 'sex geek' has an amazing information packed website including articles and videos about all sorts of non-monogamous and alternate sexuality lifestyles. If you become a Reid fan (I know I am!) make sure you search him out on YouTube.
Life on the Swingset - A US based site that is run by a swinging couple and their very good friends
Chantelle Austin - An Australian relationship expert who specialises in counselling people who are venturing into open relationships.
RedHotPie - An Australian based adult dating website that includes singles as well as swingers
Adult Matchmaker - Another Australian based dating website for swingers and singles. Chantelle Austin frequently contributes articles for AMM member's information.
Of course there are plenty more resources out there. Most well run swingers clubs will post information about the pitfalls of swinging for their potential guests to read.
And so to share my collected wisdom.
- You both have to want it:
- Manage your expectations:
- Be realistic:
- Be honest and upfront
"Thanks for the offer but I am not interested"
"No I am not really into anal"
"I don't want to play without my partner"
Most people will apreciate upfrontedness. The ones who don't aren't worthy of your time.